Cinderella sat in the fireplace dreaming of a better life. If you remember the musical by Rodgers and Hammerstein, she sang the song, “In my own little corner, in my own little chair…”. She speaks of a better life and escaping from her situation. The last part of the song says that she is on a safari but she forgot to bring her gun. Then she comes back to reality realizing that she is safe in her own little corner: “all alone, in my own little chair. “
Many of us are sitting in the ashes. We have been there so long that we are uncomfortable anywhere else. The problem is, when we stay in mourning and in the ashes too long, we end up, many times like Cinderella: “All alone, in my own little chair.”
There are many times in life when mourning is healthy. The death of a loved one, a loss of a relationship, a loss of a job, a dream that dies, financial hardship, failure in business, hurt by church leadership, and any number of other things that hurt us.
I heard Joel Osteen say that God grants us a season of mourning, not a lifetime of mourning. Samuel had put a lot time and effort into making Saul king of Israel, but it did not work out. Samuel felt somewhat responsible for this and went into a season of mourning. But look what God said when he mourned for too long:
1 Samuel 16:1 – KJV – And the LORD said unto Samuel, How long wilt thou mourn for Saul, seeing I have rejected him from reigning over Israel? fill thine horn with oil, and go, I will send thee to Jesse the Bethlehemite: for I have provided me a king among his sons.
Just like the fairy godmother in Cinderella, God knows that the best thing to get us over our mourning is action. The fairy godmother told Cinderella to go to the ball, and Cinderella began giving excuses as to why she could not. One by one, those excuses were taken away.
God takes away our excuses when we mourn too long. In His word, He gives us direction to take us back to the highway of living our dreams instead of wasting our lives “in our own little corner”.
Isaiah 61:3 – KJV – To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified.
God is glorified when we receive beauty for ashes. He does an overhaul on our thinking to get us on the right track:
Philippians 3:13 – KJV – Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,
Can you imagine the failure the apostle Paul would have been if he had continued to mourn over his past life and not moved on to become one of the greatest apostles the world has ever known? Satan would have succeeded in holding him back through uncontrolled mourning. Is he holding you back with the same thing?
Shake yourself today. Stop looking in the rear view mirror and begin to look ahead at the possibilities in your life.
There are many government buildings that have pairs of security doors. When you have gone through the first door, you must wait for it to close before the next door will open. The same with our lives. Whatever has happened to you, allowing that door to close completely is a requirement for the next door to open. If you have been wondering why God does not open the next season in your life, be sure to check if you have closed the other door completely. You may find the answer to your question.
When we close the door to the past hurts and injustices, we can move on to great things God has in store for us.
Isaiah 61:7 – NAS – Instead of your shame you will have a double portion, And instead of humiliation they will shout for joy over their portion. Therefore they will possess a double portion in their land, Everlasting joy will be theirs.
So, rise up, Cinderella! Go to ball! Wow everyone with the positive change in your life and God will give you influence to help others put their mourning behind them.